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Christopher: What you think of us has nothing to do with us. We know, that how we feel is only affected by our own thoughts. What you think have nothing to do with it.
Your thoughts is of your choosing.
What you think of something has nothing to do with the thing itself, but everything to do with what you choose to think, and have chosen previously, creating your unique thought-habits.
Your thoughts are only controlled by you.
What another is, or does, does not affect you unless you choose to think in a way that does not agree with your Inner Beings thoughts about the other.
We always choose to think in a way that feels good to us, a way that is loving and joyful and empowering. Nothing you think or say or do can change our manner of thinking without our consent. It is always our choice.
Therefore, we don’t care what you think or do or say about anything, including about us. It has nothing to do with us anyway, it has only to do with you.
It does not affect us in any way.
You cannot create in our experience, just as no other can create in your life. Only you create your life, and no one else can negatively impact your life unless you think about the person or circumstance in a way that feels bad to you, and therefore creates more of that same feeling in your future.
We are never hurt by what another think about us, because we know that it has nothing to do with us what they choose to think. No matter what we do, no matter how hard you try to please another so they will like you, you cannot decide what they choose to think.
Only they can choose their thoughts.
You cannot make someone else happy, even if you spent every waking moment trying to do so, for you cannot think for them. It is their choice, and theirs alone.
The only way you can help another, no matter how much you love them, is to stay connected yourself. You can only help another with your own happiness.
You choose your thoughts, and by directing your thoughts to things and ways to think about things that feels good to you, you can be a happy person, no matter where you are now.
It does not help another to feel bad for their sake, to disconnect from your Soul to commiserate with them. No matter how poor, or how unhealthy someone is, how could it help them that you choose to be poor alongside them?
How does it help someone who is ill, if you decide -”Poor him, he is so ill. I will become very ill too so he doesn’t have to be alone in his misery.” How will that help him to become well again? Won’t that just create two ill people where before there was one?
How would it help him that now you are unwell also?
Not only does it not help another that you joins him in his misery, but the only way you can inspire another to their own connection to their Soul, is by being connected yourself.
If no one is an example, how would anyone be inspired to greater things?
When you are connected, others see your happiness, your connection to Source, your success, and they are drawn up to the level of connection you exemplify.
You create the space for them to become more by their own accord. You cannot do it for them, and even if you could it would benefit them so much more to figure out how to be happy no matter their surroundings, than if they would be happy, but only as long as they are looking at you.
It is your choice to be happy, or not.
We know that where you are it may seem an impossible task. We agree that when you are feeling really bad it is hard to see the top of the mountain, to see how you could ever be joyful again.
If you are in a feeling-place where you cannot see even a glimpse of joy, we want to say to you; You can get there too in time. You can become a naturally happy person no matter how you are feeling in this moment.
When you were born, you were happy because that is how you are meant to be. You’ve unlearned what you once knew, but you can get back to that joyful existence.
That is a promise.
If you are feeling very bad, it is not a question of feeling terrible, or happy. You cannot choose to be happy right away because it is too big of a leap.
But there is always a choice.
For those who are feeling really bad; hopeless or unworthy, the choice is a much smaller one. It is not by making a big decision you can become happy, but by all the tiny, tiny decisions you have in each minute of your day.
Your decision is to think of the thing you are in this moment thinking about, in a way that feels like struggling or that feels like relief. It is not a choice between despair or joy, you see, it is a choice between feeling a little better or a little worse.
Many of you need some guidance as to if your feeling is in the direction that leads to happiness, or the opposite direction. That is why the Emotional Guidance Scale is such a marvelous tool.
Many of you have been taught that there are good feelings and bad feelings. Bad feelings are supposed to be repressed, not felt at all, or pretended they are not felt.
This is not true.
There are no bad feelings, all feelings are only like a direction on a compass.
If north is leading to where you want to go or not depends only on where you want to go and from where you started. North is neither good nor bad, it is only a direction.
It is the same way with feelings.
A feeling is never bad, it is only showing you the way you are going. And depending on where you started, Hate can be leading you to Joy or to even worse feeling feelings. If you started below Hate on the Emotional Guidance Scale, it is good to feel Hate. You need to feel it to get past that point on the Scale, so you can go gradually through the other emotions and eventually find Joy.
But you cannot get to Joy, ever, if you do not allow yourself to feel your Hate and Hate is between where you are and Joy on the Scale. Then you will never get there.
No matter how bad you feel, you can feel better.
And if you choose as often as you can to feel slightly better instead of choosing to feel slightly worse, in some time you will get to Joy, do you see?
Since you are traveling mostly upward on the Scale, even if on occasion you will feel by habit, as long as your consistent direction is upward, you have to get to Happiness/Joy eventually. You are going in that direction, so you have to get there.
And that is your choice and no one else’s.
We love you just as much even if you hate us.
Christopher
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