This article is the continuation of What Your Feelings Really Mean, and will be of more benefit to you if you read that one first.
Christopher: As you learned in the last article, your feelings show you in which direction you are going, towards wanted, or unwanted. In this article, we will explain how to use that new knowledge, by deliberately changing how you feel, so you turn in the direction of all that you want.
Your feelings come from the thoughts you think
When you think a thought that is creating what you don’t want, you will feel bad. To instead create what you do want, it is necessary to change what you are thinking into something that feels better. By the way you feel, you know if your new thought is an improved, or even worse-feeling thought.
When you feel a certain way, you are causing more things and experiences that feel the same to come to you. That is the Law of Attraction.
You choose your thoughts. When you want to, you can steer them to something else. Now, don’t try to control every thought you think from now on. That is impossible. You do not have to consciously guide every single thought.
It is a lot easier than that, or at least it will be with some practise. All you need to do is to notice how you are feeling right now. And right now.
You don’t have to focus on this every moment of your day. Just notice if you are starting to feel bad about something, and realize that you can change how you feel, if you choose to do so.
And notice when you are feeling very good, and celebrate how good it feels. Then you will attract more of that good feeling to you.
Here is The Emotional Guidance Scale (by Abraham):
1. Joy, Knowledge, Empowerment, Freedom, Love, Appreciation, Bliss
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm, Eagerness, Happiness
4. Positive Expectation, Belief
5. Optimism
6. Hopefulness
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Frustration, Irritation, Impatience
11. Overwhelment
12. Disappointment
13. Doubt
14. Worry
15. Blame
16. Discouragement
17. Anger
18. Revenge
19. Hatred, Rage
20. Jealousy
21. Insecurity, Guilt, Unworthiness
22. Fear, Grief, Depression, Despair, Powerlessness
The Emotional Guidance Scale is one of the tools you can use to feel better when you want to. But remember that what is important is that you feel better, not the tool. Feel better any way you can.
You can think, ”I want to feel better, how can I feel better, what would feel better right now”. And then do the thing you think of. Pet a cat, take a walk, take a nice bath, sit in the sun, read a good book, meditate.
Anything that feels better to you.
The Emotional Guidance Scale is to help you find out which feeling to aim for. Remember that you cannot take a huge jump from feeling really bad to feeling great, it is just not possible, and it will not work.
You can only change your feeling one, two or at the most three levels on the scale. The worse you feel, the smaller increments you need.
On subjects you already feel pretty good about most of the time, there are better Thought Games to use, and you don’t need the Scale for those. Only for more ingrained, long-term bad feelings is there a point to using the scale.
Travel up the Emotional Guidance Scale
This Thought Game is called Travel up the Emotional Guidance Scale. This is how you play it. Use pen and paper, or a computer.
Write down your current thoughts on a subject that you are feeling bad about. Then look at the words, and feel the feeling, and try to place it on the Scale. Is it Anger? Guilt? Irritation? Worry? Don’t worry about choosing the wrong feeling, you’ll soon notice and can just start again if that is the case.
Then pick a feeling that is one, two or three levels higher on the Scale. If you are in Anger, you could pick Blame to aim for. Try to find thoughts that feel more like Blame. If it’s too hard to think of any, either you are aiming too far, or you picked the wrong feeling to start with. (If so, just start again from where you are.)
Write down your thoughts at the new feeling, until you really feel that feeling. Then pick a new feeling again. Do this as long as you want to, or until you reach Hopefulness or Positive Expectation.
You don’t have to find a feeling to aim for, but it can be easier as you start, since most of you have learned that it is bad to feel Revenge, for example, and recoil when you get to that feeling, so you never get past that point on the Scale.
However, you could also just find some thoughts to write down that give you relief from the previous feeling, and naturally travel up the Scale. Pick the option that seems like the easiest to you, or try both on different occasions.
You can also do this Game by thought, or spoken, but it is of more benefit if you do it in writing since that helps you to focus your thoughts more.
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