Question by Annika: Can you explain to us the meaning of our feelings?
Christopher: Your feelings are your Guidance System. They are your compass that shows you which way you are going. Am I going toward wanted or unwanted? Your feelings always tell you.
When you feel good you are going toward what you want. When you feel bad you are creating unwanted things in your future. By paying attention to your feelings you always know which way you are heading.
Now, this doesn’t mean much to you unless you understand that you control your feelings. Your feelings are a response to what you are thinking.
- If you are thinking something that is not what you want, you will feel bad.
- When you are thinking thoughts that are creating your future as you want it to be, you feel good.
It is just that easy. You will always know in which way you are heading if you notice how you feel.
There are no bad feelings
Some people may have taught you that some feelings are bad feelings. That it is wrong to have them, and that you should pretend that you don’t.
This is not true.
It is just something they were taught once, and are now teaching you the same. There are no bad feelings. Feelings are just guiding you to where you want to go. Are there bad directions on the compass?
Even though there most likely is a direction on your compass that leads to the opposite of the way you want to go, does that mean that it is a bad direction? Some other time, or for some other person, that might be the direction that is wanted.
Feelings are exactly the same. No one outside of you can know what you are feeling. Only you know in which direction you are going. Only you can tell how you feel, no one else can feel your feelings.
They can’t know if the feeling you feel, let’s call it anger for this example, leads you to wanted or unwanted. That depends completely on where you were before you found this feeling of anger. If you were in the feeling called depression, anger feels immensely better.
But the other person does not know this. They only know that you are more trouble to them now than before. Therefore they might prefer to call the anger a bad feeling. But it is not.
Where you are it is a better-feeling emotion than before, therefore it is leading you to even better-feeling emotions. You are on the path to happiness, to all the things you want coming true. But how could the other person know that?
They can’t know how you felt before, or even how you feel now. When you are feeling bad it is a blessing in disguise. How else would you know if you are going the wrong way before you got there. The bad feeling tells you so you know it before you create the things you do not want.
From feeling bad to feeling good
Your feelings range from very good-feeling feelings, to very not-good-feeling feelings. We will sort the feelings into a scale of very good-feeling, to good-feeling, to sort-of-good, to inbetween, to sort-of-bad, to bad-feeling, to very bad-feeling, this is so you can more easily tell which feeling to aim for when you are looking to feel better.
Abraham, and us, call this The Emotional Guidance Scale. What is important to know, is that these are just names attached to the emotions. Not everyone associates these names with these feelings, so it may feel like this scale is not a match to your feelings.
It is always best to follow your own feeling, and find a better feeling one, and you do not need the Scale if it doesn’t feel right for you. If something doesn’t feel good to you, do something else! (If we do not feel like the right teachers for you, find another teacher that feels good to you.)
The Emotional Guidance Scale (by Abraham)
1. Joy, Knowledge, Empowerment, Freedom, Love, Appreciation, Bliss
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm, Eagerness, Happiness
4. Positive Expectation, Belief
5. Optimism
6. Hopefulness
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Frustration, Irritation, Impatience
11. Overwhelment
12. Disappointment
13. Doubt
14. Worry
15. Blame
16. Discouragement
17. Anger
18. Revenge
19. Hatred, Rage
20. Jealousy
21. Insecurity, Guilt, Unworthiness
22. Fear, Grief, Depression, Despair, Powerlessness
If you are low on the Scale, such as at Revenge, you cannot change your thoughts to Joy right away. It is just too big of a jump, it’s impossible to do.
Instead, you can aim for a feeling a bit higher on the scale, one or two or possibly three levels higher. Then, when you have stabilised in your new, better-feeling feeling, you can do it again. That is a good way to change how you think, and make it last.
Here is the next article about feelings, where there is more information on how to change the way you feel; about everything. You can change how you feel whenever you choose to. It is your choice.
You can become a happy person.
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